Grace loves to write commentaries on psycho-cultural and sociocultural dynamics te their myriad forms.
Who’s Te , Who’s Out, and Who’s Te Inbetween
Psychologists, sociologists, and social scientists decry the so-called latest phenomena of mean lady culture. There wasgoed even a 2004 movie called MEAN Damsels which a lady wasgoed very first accepted and subsequently ostracized by a clique at hier schoolgebouw. However, mean dame culture has existed for decades ter junior high and high schools. There wasgoed always a damsel pecking order based upon socioeconomic backgrounds, grade status, and the appeal hacedor.
Females have always competed against each other from time immemorial. However, this wasgoed never acknowledged by society. Females, especially women, have bot characterized spil being docile, gentle, and peaceful. Females were also characterized spil being less confrontational and less argumentative then masculines. Chicks were further inundated that they vereiste be “good women” and to be pushy and aggressive were unfeminine.
Many women gave way to this sintético womanish stereotype, thus sublimating their aggressive and pushy feelings. Chicks learned that being outwardly aggressive is wrong, however, they use this energy surreptitiously, being aggressive towards each other. determined to be surreptitiously aggressive towards each other. It comes spil a revelation to many people that ladies can be hooligans also.
Even however there are mean women at the nursery schoolgebouw, parvulario, and elementary schoolgebouw levels, the phenomena of the mean chick becomes very prevalent ter the junior high and high schoolgebouw level. I have discovered that the apex of mean girlness is at the junior high schoolgebouw level. At this stage of life, women are attempting out different personas and on their way to discovering what type of person they wish to become. Formerly nice chicks are becoming more catty just to getraind te a particular clique and to build up the acceptance of a certain alpha damsel.
Many alpha ladies have excellent leadership women but they elect to use those abilities negatively. Alpha women are usually the head of a particular clique. The word of the alpha damsel is law and all the other women te the said group go after hier. The alpha doll thrives on control. She does not believe that the damsels ter hier group should express their individuality. A prototype of the alpha doll is the character Christy Masters te ROMY AND MICHELE’S HIGH Schoolgebouw REUNION. Ms. Masters wasgoed the alpha lady te the A -listed group of cheerleaders. Thesis damsels were on top of the high schoolgebouw pecking order who periodically derided women whom they deemed inferior.
The main objects of their scorn were Romy and Michelle who were near the bottom of the high schoolgebouw pecking order. Ter one toneel when the A-listed group derided Romy and Michelle, one of the cheerleaders attempted to defend the two chicks, however, Ms. Masters talent the cheerleader a glaring look, putting the cheerleader ter hier “place.” Alpha chicks believe that group think is more significant than individuality. Any dame who elects to be an individual within a clique is often derided and oftentimes ostracized. Spil a result, many ladies who are ter cliques sublimate their true personalities te order to belong.
Many damsels have the status of being the te betweens. They are neither insiders strafgevangenis are they finish outsiders. They are ter pecking order purgatory or contorno so to speak. Thesis ladies have a broad diversity of associates and friends, believing te playing it safe. Thesis women maintain that they are ter the best situation possible. Thesis damsels also cam be classified spil bystanders regarding the chick pecking order situation. Te inbetween women have different types of associates and friends spil a barrier i.e. ter case one group excludes them, there is always another group. Thesis women can be classified spil beta chicks, however, they are not spil low on the pecking order spil the odd or outsider damsel.
Te inbetween damsels can exhibit various types of personalities ter order to gezond within their particular group of the uur. Thesis are the damsels who are most afraid of asserting their individuality because they want to be part of a group. To reiterate, they are te group purgatory. They clearly do not want to be alone for whatever reason so they oftentimes do harmful and/or aggressive things to other damsels to overeenkomstig to their group. Thesis ladies know that they do not have the power that alpha ladies have. Te inbetween ladies have secondhand power.
Then there are the women at the lowest end of the pecking order. They are usually the odd or outside dame. No one wants them at all not even the te inbetween damsels. Thesis women are ter hell figuratively. The are reasons for being the odd or outside doll according to woman group think. Very likely the outside damsel is different from the group ter terms of socioeconomic status, familial background, academic status. Oftentimes damsels who deny to go along with the crowd are finta frequently ostracized within the junior high and high schoolgebouw culture.
Sometimes ter certain cultures, ladies who are studious and serious are ostracized by their peers. For example, chicks who are not boy crazy and adhere to the promedio jongere damsel group think are severely ostracized. I know this firsthand. When I wasgoed ter the 7th and 8th grade, the alpha damsels te my schoolgebouw were boy crazy and into romance novels. Thesis chicks wore the shortest miniskirts and the tightest clothing. Many of those ladies embarked dating te the 7th grade and they were not into sports.
Academically, an staggering majority of them ranged from B to C-students. They also were physically beautiful and very middle class. I reminisce one of the women stating that they did not want ladies who were “unattractive within their group.” They considered themselves to be the MOST MATURE chicks around. They considered damsels who played sports to be immature. I recollect one dame indicating that a chick wasgoed totally immature because this chick wasgoed into sports and not dating yet. This group considered the doll to be at the jardín de infancia level emotionally.
Thesis alpha ladies had all the boys around them. Albeit this group had two A students, those students were not the leaders but were followers. Let us not digress. The aforementoned outside woman wasgoed an independent damsel, not a follower. She wasgoed never afraid to express hier difference and hier individuality. She wasgoed excluded from group after group.
Furthermore, this dame wasgoed an extreme beta female. She wasgoed ostracized from the time she entered schoolgebouw because she wasgoed different racially and ethnically from the regular schoolgebouw population. Besides being from a different étnico/ethnic background, she wasgoed also one of the poorest students and came from an enormously Duggarish large family. Most of the damsels derided hier, often holding their noses when she walked by. However, she wasgoed never fazed by damsel groups making joy of hier. She believed that she wasgoed just spil good spil anyone else.
There are many odd or outside women who use their status spil a source of strength. Many odd or outsider chicks learn to be very creative and individualized youthful women. Thesis women often have a rich internal world and pursue activities different from that of the other damsels. Many odd or outsider women have friends and activities outside of their schoolgebouw. Odd or outsider ladies usually go after their own drummers.
For example, ter my high schoolgebouw, there wasgoed one damsel who wasgoed ostracized because of hier extreme brilliance. She wasgoed never timid te voicing hier brilliance, furthermore, she wasgoed an early feminist. The other students refused to understand hier because she wasgoed the smartest student ter the class. The other students often made joy of hier last name. However, she did not care, often electing to pursue solitary hobbies. She wasgoed a very outstanding artist and a very advanced thinker. During hier high schoolgebouw career, she had very, very few friends, however, she had activities outside the schoolgebouw and a very supportive family.
Many odd or outsider chicks have supportive family members. The promedio odd or outside doll is usually fairly mature beyond hier years and believe that conforming to the “común” woman culture is somewhat asinine. This female believes that she has something better to do. However, there are some odd or outside damsels who are so traumatized about being excluded from the group that they feel spil if they are nonentities. Thesis damsels have little or no self worth and would do ANYTHING, even harmful, stupid, and/or deleterious to be accepted by the group. Some of thesis damsels even commit the ultimate act of suicide because they believe that they are totally unworthy of living and that life is a helluva practice.
There are programs spil to how to remedy the mean woman culture. However, thesis programs are very few and far inbetween. Many parents are either unaware or indifferent to the culture of mean damsels. To many parents, the mean woman culture is just damsels being ladies and a común part of life.
However, studies vertoning that the proliferation of mean chicks indicates that this is a very serious matter. Articles ter THE Fresh YORK TIMES and other magazines clarifies how the culture of mean women adversely influence on our youthfull women psychologically ranging from low self-esteem to suicide. Talk vertoning hosts such spil Tyra Banks and Oprah Winfrey regularly discuss the kwestie of the mean female culture so this kwestie should be taken gravely and not to be casually demised spil mere lady’s play.
Parents and teachers voorwaarde be jointly involved to discuss this kwestie and to institute workable solutions to this ongoing dilemma. Our youthfull chicks should feel good about themselves and have a right to develop their human potential to the utmost. Furthermore, youthful ladies should have an spil unencumbered childhood and adolescence spil possible.
В© 2011 Grace Marguerite Williams